Other Blog Thoughts

There have a been a few post in the last week that have made me think, or riled me up for one reason or another. I thought I would share some of my thoughts.

First, Mel from Stirrup Queens posted last week about infertility showing up in Hollywood. There is a new movie coming out which inspired the post. One of the movies touched upon was the movie Up. A wonderful movie, but yes, that opening montage did catch me by surprise indeed. It's not so much the movie that I want to talk about here though. It's the reference made to another blogger who wrote about the movie that upset me. (maybe still feeling sensitive after the PAIL blow up, I'm not sure). Anyway. She make reference to a review written by Momicillian. (See her post for all the links, I'm being lazy.) The woman who wrote this review commented that she was really glad her son didn't ask about that scene because she didn't want to have to explain it to him.

Well, you can only imagine that this prompted a few comments about hoe Momicillian has no idea how lucky she is, and how she is a boob. This is what upset me. I have a feeling that these few commenters never bothered to click though tot he original review on Momicillian. If they did, they would have seen that Momicillian is a blog written by many women of many different backgrounds, and that this particular review was by a guest writer! Momicillian is not one person! Also, I happen to have some IRL knowledge about the founders of Momicillian, and know that one of them adopted a daughter from China after having one biological son. Anyway, just because the reviewer didn't want to have to explain miscarriage to her son in that moment, doesn't necessarily mean that she has never experienced one. I guess I just got a little sick of the jumping to conclusions that I see, and the negative commenting without fully understanding the source of the material being commented on. It really does go to show the power that bloggers have and how they can easily sway an audience. I almost never comment on Stirrup Queens. But, for that post, I did feel the need to speak up and point out the few things that I did here.

Then, after riling me all up, a few days later, Mel posted this post about copyright, and what images are ok to use on your blog. I commented again to thank her for spreading the word. I come from a background in graphic design. Being aware of what is ok or not ok to use was part of my profession. Nothing drives me crazier than seeing someone credit Google Images for the picture they used on their blog. Google is not a photo house. They are a search engine. They do not own any images. Read her post. It will explain it all. It jumped out at me not only because it's a pet peeve, but because this issue has been on my mind a lot lately in the context of Pinterest. Going forward, I will be making an effort to pin only images that are fairly obvious that the creator would like to have pinned.

Anyway!

The last post that had my head spinning was Miss Conception writing about her father. I really feel for her situation. Hubby and I are going through a similar situation right now, as he was forced to reconcile with his alcoholic father in order to support his mother (still married) and brother through that illness. They didn't speak for 12 years. I haven't spoken to my own father (who I'm recently believing more and more is an alcoholic as well) for 2.5 years. I wrote a lot about him last year, but took down all of those posts in fear of a security breach. Anyway, it struck me, in reading through the comments, just how many other people have dealt with alcoholism, and daddy issues. I had a few thoughts....are children of alcoholics more likely to be infertile? And then the similarity of the stigma of two topics that people don't talk about...Alcoholism and Infertility, but yet, how when we do reach out, there are always people who get it, and what a relief that is. So, my dear friend, Miss C, I am thinking of you lots, and really, really hoping that you get some good news this week on your FET!